{"id":2876,"date":"2019-04-11T22:22:38","date_gmt":"2019-04-11T22:22:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.biblestudies4you.com\/?p=2876"},"modified":"2019-04-11T22:23:07","modified_gmt":"2019-04-11T22:23:07","slug":"grans-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblestudies4you.com\/?p=2876","title":{"rendered":"Gran’s Advice"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is Gran’s advice to an adult grand-daughter facing a crossroads in her life\u2026..<\/p>\n

Hi Dear, You\u2019ve been on my mind a bit and I woke up last night after having a dream, actually I had a second dream along the same lines. So I felt I should write to you and give you some sayings \u00a0to think about. Now I don\u2019t know if this is for you, or if it is for you to pass on to someone else, and I\u2019m not even sure which order to write it in, so I\u2019ll do it in a series of thoughts I\u2019ve gleaned over the years.<\/p>\n

Thought No 1.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em><\/strong>\u201cIf it\u2019s doubtful , it\u2019s dirty!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

When you get a shirt out of the cupboard, or you are about to put one away, and wonder if it needs washing or not, this is the measuring stick. If it\u2019s doubtful, it IS dirty!!<\/p>\n

So if you are contemplating some move and are uncertain whether to proceed or not, and are feeling uneasy in yourself\u00a0 wondering if it IS a good move or not, remember if there is any doubt in your mind leave it alone until you are absolutely certain. And of course the measuring stick is, what does God say about this situation?<\/p>\n

Thought No. 2.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>\u201cUse Your Head Before you Lose it!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Whenever you start on a new course of action, there always comes a point when you can \u00a0still walk away from it. If you are doubtful, walk! Don\u2019t wait until you get to the point where you are so involved you feel you cannot do this to someone else.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Thought No. 3.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u201cDon\u2019t Feel Sorry for Someone else; You will end up Feeling Sorrier for Yourself!\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong>I have given this advice to different ones over the years, and at first sight it might seem like a selfish rule to have. BUT your first responsibility is to yourself, not to anyone else, no matter how much trouble they are in. We had a friend once whose wife walked out on him, and he had to learn to do for himself. I could have easily done his washing, and taken him meals ready cooked, but he had to learn to do it for himself. Another lady friend whose husband had died, was living on her own and wondered if she should take in another person who was looking for\u00a0 somewhere to live. We told her, \u201cDON\u2019T!\u201d<\/p>\n

It seems mean, but if she had and then got into relationship problems with this person, guess who would have to pick up the pieces\u2026.other people! We \u00a0all know about broken relationships. As it turned out, this person looking for board\u00a0 would have taken this lady\u2019s house over. Her friends \u00a0were already doing all the repairs and maintenance \u00a0for her, and there was no need to complicate things!<\/p>\n

Thought No 4.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Don\u2019t Take What is\u00a0 just Good, and Miss Out on God\u2019s Best.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Think about Solomon\u2019s choice when God spoke to him in a dream telling him that He would give him anything at all that he asked for. We don’t know how much time Solomon thought about this first \u00a0but he was feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of ruling this nation wisely so he asked God for wisdom to do it properly. God commended \u00a0him for asking this, because he had asked for what was good. But when he became old, he forgot God\u2019s rules and married heathen wives for political reasons without trusting God,\u00a0 and the Bible says that these outlandish women (Nehemiah 13:26;\u00a0 King James words<\/em>)\u00a0 caused him to sin. He had asked for what was good, but had missed God\u2019s best; he should have asked for a heart to follow the Lord wholly all the days of his life. There is nothing sadder that seeing an older person fall away from the Lord.<\/p>\n

Thought No.5.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Always keep in Mind the Difference Between a Christian and a non Christian.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

We all know the passage that says to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever, \u00a0but the Bible also talks about \u00a0the difference between light and darkness, between the actions of the flesh and the actions of the Spirit. (Galatians 5:19-25)<\/em><\/p>\n

I remember a girl years ago who fell in love with a non-Christian. She was told to not marry him, but he promised her the earth. He wouldn\u2019t stop her going to church; it wouldn\u2019t make any difference if she was a Christian and he wasn\u2019t. So she married him. Later that year, friends went to stay with this girl and her husband. He hadn\u2019t stopped her going to church at this stage, but he complained about her church DVDs, and music she wanted to put on; he didn\u2019t like the time she spent reading the Bible; He didn\u2019t like her church friends or her going out at night to Bible Study, or her giving her tithe to the church.<\/p>\n

So of course these things were put aside, one by one, until she gave up going altogether.<\/p>\n

Thought No. 6.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em><\/strong>The old Joke\u2026..As the Bride Walked down the Aisle to the Altar, she thought of three things\u2026Aisle, Altar, Hymn! \u00a0\u201cI\u2019ll Alter him!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Just remember there is one thing a person CANNOT do, you cannot alter another person\u2019s habits or ways, especially if they are an older person, and been living on their own for a bit. Just look at people\u2019s different\u00a0 eating habits!!!! Classic case! So you have to love a person very much to sink yourself into their ways and habits. It\u2019s no use thinking \u201cIt\u2019s not fair!\u201d Of course it isn\u2019t fair! It will only make a good argument! You CANNOT alter him!<\/p>\n

It takes years to come to the point of \u00a0being able to give in gracefully. And then to not resent it!<\/p>\n

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Thought No. 7.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Make Sure There is no Baggage in the Way.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

There are many forms of \u201cbaggage\u201d in a relationship. There is nothing worse than trying to mix oil and water\u2026..it can\u2019t be done! Things are bad enough to adjust to without having complications of other relationships or cultures to have to adjust to. Another thing I have seen as I have got older, is a wife about ten years (or more) \u00a0younger than her husband having to lead him along, or helping him use a walking frame. It might be flattering to have an older man court you when you are young, but just think of the other end of \u00a0life when you are still relatively young and fit and he is incapacitated in some way. This can, of course, happen in any age bracket, but it goes without saying when there is that age difference it is more likely to be the case. An acquaintance \u00a0married a man over ten years older than she was, and we caught up with her many years later at a funeral and could hardly believe our eyes\u2026. here she was leading along a shaky old man. After he died she met someone else who had a motor home and then she was able to travel all around the country making up for lost time.<\/p>\n

Well Dear, perhaps I can sleep easy\u00a0 now I\u2019ve got all that off my chest. I sort of get the feeling that you are at a cross roads, and I heard that you were thinking of going overseas \u00a0for a bit and getting a job there. If you have any of these sort of pressures on you here, go, and get away to new places and meeting new people. Just make sure you go to places where you can meet new Christian people and form new friendships that will be helpful, and not drag you down. You will have many openings for work with your training.<\/p>\n

Remember the difference between what is Good and what is Best.\u00a0\u00a0Also remember that God\u2019s timing is never late<\/p>\n

Love, Gran<\/p>\n

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\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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