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How Should We Behave?

     The sermon we had at church yesterday was quite challenging. Once again, it was taken from the book of 1 Peter, chapter three, and the topic was forgiving others when they have treated you badly. Now this is not easy to do….our natural inclination is to hit back and to show the person a thing or two! But this is not the way that Peter is talking about here, and it certainly wasn’t the way that Jesus Christ taught His disciples to behave. If we treat bad behaviour with kindness, we never know what the end result will be. It reminded me of a true story I heard once…..

    One time we visiting some folk in an area we hadn’t been to before, and they took us for a sightseeing drive around the place.  As we drove along,  our driver pointed out a house across the paddock. It was an old place, but he said it had once belonged to his uncle and aunt. They were Christian folk and went to church regularly, and their neighbours next door weren’t, and didn’t. The man neighbour was really nasty to them, just because he didn’t like Christians and had no use for this church going business. He would do all sorts of things to annoy them, like throwing mud and stones  on their roof, and everything else he could think about, short of them having to get the police onto him.

     The ladies of both these households were expecting a baby each about the same time, and eventually had them. The Christian family’s baby did very well, it had plenty of mother’s milk, and it grew happy and contented. But the nasty neighbour’s wife didn’t have much milk for her baby, and it was fretful and cried a lot, and didn’t grow at all. The parents were very worried, and of course in those days there was nothing they could buy that would suit a new born baby like mother’s milk. So in the end the worried father went to his Christian neighbour, and apologised for the way he had behaved, and asked if there was any chance of them being able to get some milk from the lady with the good baby.

    The Christian man talked it over with his wife, and they came up with a plan.  He went to his neighbour, and said, yes, his wife had enough milk to feed two babies, and that they would help them out on one condition. If the non-Christian family was prepared to come and live with them, they would feed the weak baby as well as their own. But they had to come and live in, and sit through morning and night Bible readings around the table.      The neighbour was getting desperate by this time as his baby was always crying because it was hungry, and no-one was getting any rest. So they moved in with their neighbours, and the Christian lady fed both babies. The more the babies drank, the more milk she made. It wasn’t long before the sickly baby was looking nice and plump, and didn’t cry incessantly as it had before.

    By this time, the non-Christian neighbour was getting used to the Bible readings each day, and in fact, he even began to get interested to see what was going to happen next when it came to the story parts. By the time the sickly baby was good enough to not need mother’s milk so much and able to drink cows milk, its father and mother had started to go to church  regularly with the Christian couple.      The man who had been so mean to his neighbour all those years before, was now a changed man, and became one of the staunchest men in the church. All because the Christian neighbour decided to not pay him back for what he had done to them.      He was now able to have a good conscience before God, and the friendship of his neighbour who had tried to  annoy him so much before!

We are never the losers for following the ways that God has set out in His Word, the Bible.

Love Your Enemies!

BUSIN053“Oh, this is too hard!” Sarah exclaimed throwing the book she was reading down.

“What’s that?” Uncle Jeff exclaimed as he walked into the room, “What do you mean it’s too hard? Is that your Bible Study book you are reading again?”

“Yes, it is,” Sarah replied, “and just listen to what it is saying now….’Love your enemies, and do good to those who hate you!’ How can we do that Uncle Jeff? All I want to do is to sock them one and pay them back!”

“Well, I can understand that”, said Uncle Jeff, “But what chance would we have if God had done that to us? The Bible says that He gives the sun and the rain to ALL people, both the good and the bad!”

“Yes, and then it goes on to say if someone borrows something from you and doesn’t give it back we aren’t to ask for it back, and if someone picks on you, you are to be nice to them. All I want to do is the do the same to them!”

“Well,” Uncle Jeff said slowly, “I know what you mean, but I can tell you this, that if you pray for someone who has been mean to you instead of paying them back, it mightn’t change them, but it WILL change you and how you feel towards them! I’ll tell you a story about this sort of thing….”

“This is a true story and happened about a hundred years ago to my mother’s aunt and uncle.  Aunt and Uncle were good church going people and never missed going to Sunday services. Next door changed hands and the new people didn’t like Christians at all, and were really nasty to them, calling them names as Aunt and Uncle drove past in their buggy to church, and throwing rubbish over the fence into their garden.

It really got to Aunt, and one day she said to Uncle, ‘What are we going to do about these horrid neighbours?’

‘Well,’ he said, ‘There’s only one thing we can do and that is to pray for them!’

“I don’t feel a bit like it’, Aunt said.

So they made a point of praying for them every morning at the breakfast table. But the neighbours still went on being horrid and nasty. Then Aunt discovered she was having a new baby, and so was the other lady next door. When the babies were born, Aunt found she had a lot of milk to feed her baby on, but the neighbour lady couldn’t seem to make milk. You must remember this was in the days before you could go to the shop and buy baby foods. Aunt’s baby was growing and happy, but the other one was getting thinner and thinner and was always crying and fretful.

In the end, the husband came across to Uncle looking a bit shamefaced, and said, ‘Is there some way you can help us? Our baby is not growing at all and I’m afraid it might get sick and die.’

Aunt and Uncle talked it over, and then Uncle went next door and said, ’We’ve decided  that since Mum has plenty of milk for our little one, she will feed your baby for you on one condition.’

‘What’s that?’ the neighbour said.

‘You must come and live with us and have your meals with us and listen while we read the Bible after we’ve eaten dinner at night, and breakfast in the morning, and Mum will feed your little one for you.’

The neighbour man didn’t like this idea much, but they were desperate about the condition of their baby, so they agreed, and then moved in.”

“Wow!” said Sarah, “That wouldn’t have been easy!”

“No, it wasn’t, Uncle and Aunt were still praying for these neighbours, and this helped them to be kind and put up with the grumpiness of the husband.”

“So what happened?” Sarah asked.

“The neighbours’ baby soon stopped being cross and it started to grow and become a happy little thing. Aunt got quite fond of it as she fed it every meal time. The babies grew together and soon began to talk baby talk to each other. After a couple of months of Aunt and Uncle being kind and helpful to these people, the neighbours began to ask questions about the Bible stories that Uncle was reading to them. Over the next few months, the ladies became fond of each other too, and one day both the neighbours became Christians and trusted in the Lord Jesus Christ for themselves. Wasn’t that wonderful? And all because Aunt and Uncle did what Jesus was talking about in this passage that you said was too hard to do!”

“What happened in the end?” Sarah asked.

“Well, the babies were both able to start eating mashed vegetables, and didn’t need mother’s milk the same way, so the neighbours moved back to their own house. Now, instead of being mean and nasty to Aunt and Uncle, they became the best of friends and all went off to church together each Sunday. So you see Sarah, it DOES pay to pray for your enemies and you will find it easier to do kind things for them,” said Uncle Jeff.

“Did you ever know this Uncle and Aunt, Uncle Jeff?” Sarah asked.

“No, I didn’t meet them, it was before my time,” Uncle Jeff said, “But my mother often talked about them and reminded us to be nice to those who are nasty to us, because you never know what God will do for them!”